This past weekend Matt and I celebrated our first wedding anniversary. It always sounds a little weird saying that because even though it’s only our first wedding anniversary, we’ve been together for nearly eight years so having to start “from scratch” now we’re married means we feel a little bit ripped off!
Anyway…where was I? Oh yeah. Despite all that, we really wanted to mark our first year of being married with something special. Our wedding day really set my recovery in motion, it was the moment I went “all in” and truly started to challenge the ED’s lies and let go of its rules. So this weekend was more than just a first wedding anniversary celebration—it was a celebration of how far we’ve come.
We had a great weekend in Sydney starting with dinner at Nomad, an upbeat converted warehouse restaurant in Surry Hills. The food was modern with a hint of Middle Eastern cuisine (excuse the poor quality pics—the challenge of shooting in low light on a smartphone!)
Next we stopped at 4Fourteen for a white chocolate ice cream sandwich oozing with dulce de leche (a thick, creamy caramel sauce). We ordered one each—no way were we sharing this one!
On Sunday morning (our actual anniversary) we stopped off at Henley’s Wholefoods in Alexandria for breakfast and a coffee before making our way home.
Everything was amazing but surprisingly the most special time was once we were home on Sunday. We caught up with my brother and his partner for lunch, goofed around with Manny (the family dog) then made our way back to our place to celebrate the last of our anniversary in classic Matt and Kate style (home cooked meal, tasty dessert and—of course—a Christmas movie!). It was perfect.
I can honestly say there is no chance a weekend like this could have happened a year ago, but now it feels so natural, so normal. I don’t consider this past weekend as having been “indulgent” or something I have to compensate for or feel guilty about. It was just, well, life! And I can’t tell you how much funner, happier, more care free and all around better life is now the ED’s not calling the shots.
Life is meant to be full of weekends like this. It’s meant to be full of laughter, joy, shared experiences and love. Eating disorders, or anything (or anyone) else that doesn’t allow for those things, has no place in my life or yours. If you’re in the middle of an all-out war against ED please be encouraged to know that there is life on the other side. Recovery is possible, and while I’m not all the way there yet, I’m getting closer every day.
Don’t settle. Don’t give up. You are not alone.
This post is part of the Recovery Round-Up link up from one of our favourite bloggers, Lord Still Loves Me. The link up is brand new, but if you’re looking for recovery stories to inspire you in your journey it’s a great place to start!